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Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again Kindle Edition

by Lysa TerKeurst (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
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#1 Best Seller in Christian Self Help

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can't go on like this, but you don't know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.

With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

  • Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry.
  • Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.
  • Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.
  • Identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.
  • Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.

 

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:

  • I Want to Trust You, but I Don't
  • Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
  • It's Not Supposed to Be This Way
  • Uninvited
  • You're Going to Make It
  • Embraced
  • Seeing Beautiful Again
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  1. It is necessary for you not to let pain rewrite your memories. And it’s absolutely necessary not to let pain ruin your future.
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  2. Forgiveness isn’t always about doing something for a human relationship but rather about being obedient to what God has instructed us to do.
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  3. Forgiveness is a command. But it is not cruel. It is God’s divine mercy for human hearts that are so prone to turn hurt into hate.
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  7. Lysa deeply understands the heartache that comes with life-shattering circumstances. But she's also discovered that our hardships can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God.

    Filled with Biblical truth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa's words will help you find redemption in every part of your story.

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Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can't go on like this, but you don't know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey, too.

As you hear Lysa share her powerful story in her own words, you'll learn how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.

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  • Length: 8 hours and 7 minutes
  • Language: English
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Forgiving What You Can't Forget
I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Oth...
Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Pai...
Forgiving What You Can't Forget Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Disco...
The Forgiveness Journal: A Guided Journey to Forgiving What You Can't Forget
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who Yo...
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappoint...
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from Lysa: Lysa shows you what to do with your skepticism and distrust so you can heal from past betrayals and move forward with strength and resilience. In Forgiving What You Can't Forget, join bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst as she helps you discover how to move on, make peace with painful memories, and create a life that's beautiful again. Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and how to find the peace that comes from embracing it in this six-session video Bible study. Engage with questions about what forgiveness is, process through what it isn't, and understand how to deal with difficult relationships through the life-giving practice of journaling. In Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Lysa helps you stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing you biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye--without losing the best of who you are. What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable or hurtful? In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa unveils her heart amid shattering circumstances and shows you how to live assured when life doesn't turn out the way you expected.
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Lysa TerKeurst, president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, is a New York Times bestselling author and national speaker. She lives in North Carolina with her husband and five children.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B085XNMMHV
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Thomas Nelson (November 17, 2020)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ November 17, 2020
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 16.2 MB
  • Simultaneous device usage ‏ : ‎ Up to 5 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
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  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 288 pages
  • Page numbers source ISBN ‏ : ‎ 1400254485
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Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. She writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.

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Customers find the book beautifully written and helpful in providing insights and guidance on difficult subjects. They appreciate how it embodies forgiveness and healing, particularly in coping with hurts and unforgiveness, and breaking hearts in the best ways. Customers value the Bible references and find it comforting, with one noting it feels like therapy. The book receives mixed feedback regarding its religious content, with some finding it too focused on Christianity.

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551 customers mention "Readability"515 positive36 negative

Customers find the book easy to read and beautifully written, with one customer noting that the beginning is thoroughly captivating.

"...It's a process but so worth it...." Read more

"Lysa has written a beautiful book about the healing power and process of forgiveness...." Read more

"...This one spoke to me and I plan to read her other books too. Well written and impactful." Read more

"If you are a people pleaser this is a great book to read!! Helps with forgiveness even when they don’t deserve it!! I often read this book!" Read more

353 customers mention "Information quality"347 positive6 negative

Customers find the book insightful and helpful, providing guidance on navigating difficult subjects and offering a different perspective on life.

"...has I read it and reread it, highlighting passages, meditating on the truths you write. It's a process but so worth it...." Read more

"...Well written and impactful." Read more

"...An amazing self help book reminding others that forgiveness is a process that allows for self love, while also allowing the chance to forgive those..." Read more

"...And definitely will help to to see things differently and a healing way !! Go grab your book and start healing." Read more

252 customers mention "Healing method"238 positive14 negative

Customers praise the book's approach to forgiveness and healing, noting how it helps readers accept past traumas and return peace to their minds and spirits, while also making it easier to forgive others.

"Lysa has written a beautiful book about the healing power and process of forgiveness...." Read more

"If you are a people pleaser this is a great book to read!! Helps with forgiveness even when they don’t deserve it!! I often read this book!" Read more

"...help book reminding others that forgiveness is a process that allows for self love, while also allowing the chance to forgive those who have hurt..." Read more

"...And definitely will help to to see things differently and a healing way !! Go grab your book and start healing." Read more

65 customers mention "Heartbreak"53 positive12 negative

Customers appreciate how the book helps readers cope with hurts and unforgiveness, particularly in the context of trauma and betrayal by a spouse, while empowering them to interrupt emotional spirals.

"...Can't thank you enough for writing this book and sharing your own pain with such honesty and a victorious walk towards a heart filled with peace..." Read more

"...This gave me a reimagined approach to forgiveness, bitterness and religious healing. Thank you Lysa." Read more

"...I especially appreciated the section on bitterness. It's worth the investment...." Read more

"I obtained this book in the morning and was engrossed in it for five hours, culminating in its completion...." Read more

30 customers mention "Bible references"23 positive7 negative

Customers appreciate the Bible references in the book, which provide helpful scriptural insights and examples drawn from the author's personal experiences.

"...In these pages she shares great insights into this important topic with grace and compassion...." Read more

"Through her own experiences, the author shares different examples on how to forgive those who have hurt us and how to continue living." Read more

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Customers find the book comforting, with several mentioning it brings peace to hurts, and one noting it feels like therapy.

"I needed this book right now in life. It has helped me so much release the hurt I’ve had in my heart and can start to heal from past traumas that I..." Read more

"The book was such an excellent read that gently hand-held me with grace & simple explanation AT THE BEGINNING AND MIDDLE!..." Read more

"...the author shares insight to the importance of forgiving, and letting go of hurts...." Read more

"The Vulnerability I felt when reading this book brings out all the feels. I highly recommend this one." Read more

13 customers mention "Pacing"13 positive0 negative

Customers appreciate the pacing of the book, with reviews mentioning how it helps readers move forward after hard times, untie strongholds, and provides guidance on setting boundaries and goodbyes.

"...this book and sharing your own pain with such honesty and a victorious walk towards a heart filled with peace and forgiveness...." Read more

"...Chapter 9 was my favorite, especially the things to reminder when setting boundaries. There were so many gems of information given. "..." Read more

"...The book gave me insights and paths forward in helping me understand why I can be triggered at times by certain associations and recollections...." Read more

"...or forgive things from the past and this book helps with that, teaching how to let go and forgive things that happened in the past...." Read more

54 customers mention "Religious content"22 positive32 negative

Customers have mixed opinions about the religious content of the book, with some appreciating its faith-based approach while others find it too focused on religious references.

"...While it is heavy on religious references, that didn’t make the message less impactful for me...." Read more

"...This book is Faith based, so heads up to anyone that may have issues with that concept...." Read more

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  • Jeagrace
    5.0 out of 5 stars A powerful book on healing emotional pain
    Reviewed in the United States on October 13, 2024
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    Hurts, painful memories inflicted by other people can live for years in our hearts. Thanks Lysa for sharing your walk from pain, anger and bitterness to forgiveness and peace. NOTHING has helped me heal like your book has I read it and reread it, highlighting passages, meditating on the truths you write. It's a process but so worth it. Thank you also for sharing when you stumbled and got back up again because it helps me feel like I'm not a failure if I have not perfected this walk yet And it so much encourages me to keep seeking this peace in place of anger, bitterness and resentment. Can't thank you enough for writing this book and sharing your own pain with such honesty and a victorious walk towards a heart filled with peace and forgiveness. Thank you for showing us that it's possible and so worth it
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    5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book!
    Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2025
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    Lysa has written a beautiful book about the healing power and process of forgiveness. In these pages she shares great insights into this important topic with grace and compassion. I highly recommend this book to everyone, especially those who may be struggling with forgiveness. Excellent book!
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  • Letty Trevino
    5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing
    Reviewed in the United States on February 23, 2025
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    I tried several other books about the same subject matter and couldn’t finish them. This one spoke to me and I plan to read her other books too. Well written and impactful.
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  • Danielle Mundorf
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book
    Reviewed in the United States on March 13, 2025
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    If you are a people pleaser this is a great book to read!! Helps with forgiveness even when they don’t deserve it!! I often read this book!
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    5.0 out of 5 stars A good read for finding forgiveness
    Reviewed in the United States on February 15, 2025
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    This was such a great informative book for anyone looking to put in the work to deep inner healing. An amazing self help book reminding others that forgiveness is a process that allows for self love, while also allowing the chance to forgive those who have hurt you the most. Thank you for sharing your gift.
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    4.0 out of 5 stars Really Insightful!!
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    I highly recommend this book, it's an awesome read ( I have the full collection book, study guide and journal) it's very informative and motivational. And definitely will help to to see things differently and a healing way !! Go grab your book and start healing.
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    5.0 out of 5 stars such a good book
    Reviewed in the United States on March 23, 2025
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    I needed this book right now in life. It has helped me so much release the hurt I’ve had in my heart and can start to heal from past traumas that I never got an apology for and won’t get one.
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    5.0 out of 5 stars Beautiful book
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    I can’t say enough good things about this book. From the moment I started reading it I was emotional. It’s a fabulous book for those of us hurting.
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  • Latoya Reisner
    5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing book! This book has changed my life :')
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 14, 2025
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    This book is brilliant. Lysa writes almost from such a direct and personal point of view and beautifully brings in faith and religion in such a gentle way and as a reminder to teach you how to forgive. She teaches that forgiveness is very much a process AND an action and something we have to practice. She very much validate the pain you've been through. I've never connected to a book so much like this, and I'm now gonna be buying all her books. HIGHLY RECOMMEND. Even if you're not a religious person - please trust this book. You'll be in with it straight away
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  • Matteo Oligarchi
    3.0 out of 5 stars Tropi riferimenti religiosi
    Reviewed in Italy on August 9, 2024
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    I concetti nel libro sono sicuramente validi ma sono troppo spesso supportati da riferimenti religiosi. La scrittrice utilizza esperienze personali per affrontare gli argomenti trattati. Mentre capisco che la religione si una elemento importante per la scrittrice non vedo la necessità di validare tutti gli argomenti attraverso riferimenti a Gesu e alla Bibbia. I concetti possono essere validi anche senza di essi.
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  • Kerry
    5.0 out of 5 stars A very interesting read if you struggle
    Reviewed in Australia on November 20, 2024
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    The book helped me immensely, I’m not very spiritual so I tended to overlook some parts, like I said very interesting if you struggle
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  • Patrick from Ontario
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent read
    Reviewed in Canada on July 15, 2024
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    My wife raved about this book as they went through this in her women's group at church. TerKeurst uses an honest and relatable writing style which makes complex emotions more manageable, and her insights provided a beacon of hope for those struggling with past hurts. This book is a must-read for anyone seeking to find peace and move forward with grace.
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    5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book
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